Alcoholic Musings of Brilliance

You never showed at the festival. Or at least the Universe didn't let us collide. Perhaps next year...

Jen and I were able to hang out on Friday night at the Center of the Universe Festival in downtown Tulsa. It felt like old times, drinking, just the two of us. We don't get to do that very often these days, now that she's a mom, and a wife, and I'm single. It seems like we're never on the same page in life. I'm married, she's getting a divorce, I'm getting a divorce she's happily married, I'm single again and finding myself, and she's a first time mother devoting herself to another.
We've both mentioned how fun it would have been had we both been single at the same time, possibly able to live together or have the opportunity to go out together more. On Friday night on our way home, we settled into our easy conversation, grabbing Taco Bueno with the midnight snack cravings. We have this way with each other. Its very comforting to be able to express oneself openly about anything and have no worry about judgement. Once again we reminisced about the fun evening of drinking and music, and wished we could do it more often. She suddenly stopped and looked pensive for a moment. Then said something along the lines of , 'I think it worked out this way because we were exactly what the other person needed at the moment they needed it.' Which struck me in my post drunken, late night, munchy, chatty, starting-to-get-sleepy stupor (the exact moment when the brilliance shines through), that she hit the nail on the head. Had we both been in the middle of a divorce, who would have been the stronghold? We would have both been emotional wrecks, and just dragged each other down. It helped to go over late at night and cry on her shoulder, and see the life she was able to make for herself on the other side of a divorce: The wonderful loving husband, and the beautiful baby in the next room. It gives me hope. I hate to say it, but even though I'm older, she's kind of my mentor in a lot of ways. Even though no one can claim to be perfect or have it all figured out, she seems to have a pretty good idea. I'm fortunate to call her my best friend.